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No 2, 2008

Sexoanalysis for the problem of low desire after birth
(Please refer to the French version for the complete article)

Agnès Camincher

In our practice of sexologist we often see patients who are suffering from lack of sexual desire following the birth of a child. What can be considered as a physiological problem during the weeks following childbirth very often becomes a real sufferance for the couple after several months. For these frequently occurring situations, the sexoanalysis can offer elements of original answers concerning the hypothesis as well as therapeutics ways. It will explore in the individuals concerned the three spheres of sexuality: erotic functioning, the gender, the relationship with the other sex and with the same sex.

We can see by a lot of young mothers lacking desire a trouble of gender. We even could call that a gender depression, as a massive split between Madonna and Anti-Madonna. The damaged subjective perception about their own feminity leaves these women in a great amount of confusion and a low self-esteem, accompanied with doubts about their desirability. The principal hypothesis are: the emotional intensity of the delivery experience as a point of rupture of identity, an overvaluing of maternal identity, considerably above their gender identity, and confusion between esthetic standards and desirability when the body image has been disturbed by the delivery. Erotic function as explored by the imagination is also often disturbed.

According to sexoanalysis, integration of fusing and anti-fusing eroticism is an indication of sexual maturity. First we can generally note in the new parents a low level of sexual fantasy accompanied by a high level of guilt concerning expression of anti-fusional fantasies, which are understood as a threat against family cohesion.

We propose in this article different examples of clinical cases to confirm this argument.

In closing, sexoanalysis propose therapeutic tracks as a narrative to grasp different representations to enrich the sexual experience, and in depth, inconscious sexuality, by relying upon both physical and emotional feeling.

Little by little, the work progresses towards the re-integration of a more flexible and enlarged eroticism and equally an improvement in self individuality which is often lost with the onset of give motherhood and fatherhood.

If the couple’s sexuality was deemed satisfactory in the past, we are often surprised that improvements develop much quickly than allowed to be imagined, especially if the problem was described as dramatic during the first consultations.